NKC Helping Guiding you to a Sponsor or Sponsee

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Here at Newcomers Keep Coming (NKC), we aim to guide you on your journey to finding a temporary, interim, or permanent sponsor or sponsee no matter if you're a newcomer / beginner or old timer in AA.

We firmly believe that having a sponsor or sponsee, whether temporary or permanent, is better than not having one at all. It may take a day, a few days, or even a few weeks to find the right sponsor for you. We are here to assist you in this process.

1) Complete your details and what sponsorship you’re looking for on the Sponsor / Sponsee Webform below so we can help guide you more.

2) Keep coming back to the NKC Zoom meeting. Join us early, before the meeting starts, and engage in conversation on Zoom chat with our friendly team. The pre-meeting chat/greeting typically begins 30 minutes prior to the scheduled meeting time. Let the team know that you are looking for a sponsor or sponsee, and you will find supportive individuals to talk to and seek guidance from.

You can find the NKC Zoom meeting details and times on the front page of our website at www.newcomerskeepcoming.org. Aim to arrive approximately 30 minutes before the meeting's start time (don't forget to bookmark our website!).

3) We strongly recommend that you share during the main NKC Meeting. Sharing your thoughts and experiences will allow potential sponsors or sponsees to see and hear you. Make sure to mention that you are actively seeking a sponsor or sponsee.

4) Stay for the NKC meeting after it officially ends for the meeting after the meeting. This informal open sharing and chat time can extend for hours, with participants leaving at their convenience. Engage in conversation and sharing with others, and don't forget to mention your search for a sponsor  or sponsee. We also offer breakout rooms for men, women, and non-binary individuals if its deemed necessary. The NKC family will do their best to assist you 🙏. Remember to complete the Sponsor / Sponsee Webform below. 

5) Also, attend face-to-face and other meetings. Engage in conversations and sharing during these meetings, emphasizing your search for a sponsor or sponsee. You can find meetings near you through the following link: Find A.A. Near You (Worldwide) | Alcoholics Anonymous (aa.org). Simply select your location, and it will provide you with information about your nearest AA Office, which can help you locate in-person or online meetings. Finding a real person to meet to be a sponsor or sponsee may be a better option for you.

6) Consider exploring Sponsorship Connection websites/groups, these are  places where people network to connect with sponsees/sponsors. Please note that you won't usually have the opportunity to meet these sponsors first during a Zoom or face-to-face meeting. But do reach out to arrange a call or meeting in a public place or at an AA meeting. We will also send you a list of AA sponsors and AA's guide on sponsors.

7) You may wish to request to join NKC Service (we use WhatsApp, you can download WhatsApp here www.whatsapp.com). To join NKC Service please see  AA Service - Support Your Recovery at Newcomers Keep Coming 

8) If you're looking for a sponsor we would really recommend that you ensure the person has a decent amount time and experience in AA and is following the full AA program. Ensure that they are currently working the full program and that they have a sponsor too. You can ask them about the AA program and who their sponsor is and if their sponsor has a sponsor too, and how many sponsees they currently sponsor for their experience helping others and if they have too many, as they may not have much time for you. For sponsor and sponsees, also ask how long they've had them for and how many over the years. You would want to ensure you have an experienced sponsor who does know and works the full AA program.

9) Don't look for a new friend, or that nice person, or that funny person, or a wealthy person, or the centre of attention person. Look at it as  - will I get on with them, respect them, listen to them, trust them and will their approach actually benefit and properly support my long lasting journey to sobriety.

10) Consider someone outside of your Home Group, as this maybe 'too close to home' for you both being in the same Home Group. If they ask you to change Home Groups to theirs or direct you to move to other groups, this doesn't usually help. A sponsor is there to guide and help, not tell you what you have to do.

11) A sponsor is there to guide and help you. If you feel they are directing you or telling you to do something that isn't right, you have the right to ask/challenge them. Also, speak to others in AA to get second opinions if you are unsure.

12) If someone offers a sponsor/sponsee to you, it's not for others to offer a 'friendly' or 'helpful' matchmaking service or a 'pass the person around other AA people until they find someone' approach as we have found this doesn't usually work. It is for you to follow the journey to find the right sponsor/sponsee connection.

13) The sponsor/sponsee are usually men with men and women with women unless agreed otherwise in advance around the 13th Step, as this can lead to unwanted 13th Stepping which does not end well.  

14) If someone directs/tells you will be my sponsor/sponsee, we also have found this does not usually work too. It is for you to follow the journey to find the right sponsor/sponsee connection.

15) If you think a sponsor is right for you do reach out to contact them and ask, as sponsors are waiting to be contacted by sponsees (Sponsors don't usually reach out to you and we would question this approach and ask you to take caution). They will let you know either way if they will be able to sponsor you or guide you more.

16) Use Alchie AI / Alchie AL NKC's guiding supporting companion to help with your sobriety journey, read more below.

These tips are designed to assist you in getting started on your journey (Please note AA or NKC are not here to provide a service to find you a sponsor or sponsee, it is for you to find one - but we will try to assist where we can. Also do read about Alchie AI / Alchie AL can help as guiding companion sponsor below). 

We also have some helpful NKC Blog posts that provide some guidance on sponsorship: 

   Choosing the Right Sponsor in AA: A Newcomer's Guide

   Role of an AA Sponsor: A Guide to Support & Guidance in Recovery

   What Is a Sponsor Looking for in a Sponsee?

Try our AA Alchie AI/Alchie AL sobriety companion sponsor too:

   🌟 Meet Alchie AI / Alchie AL: Your 24/7 Sobriety Companion Sponsor 

 To use Alchie AI/Alchie AL here's our shortened weblink to use and bookmark: https://alchieai.nkc.life 

🧺Passing the basket: If our meeting and website has been helpful to you, we kindly encourage you to contribute to AA's 7th Tradition, which supports the operation of the NKC meeting and helps other alcoholics around the world. You can make a secure contribution here https://basket.nkc.life or paypal.nkc.life 🙏🫶

Additionally, why not consider joining the NKC home group and getting involved in service? This is an excellent way to support others and maintain your own sobriety. Learn more about service opportunities at Service - Newcomers Keep Coming (NKC) Alcoholics Anonymous Group.

We love you - we’re not here to do this alone, we do this together.

Keep coming back.

With all our love and gratitude,

Newcomers Keep Coming (NKC) 🫶💖